365 Day Blog Post Challenge 2019
20. What is your tolerance level towards someone you love or value whose opinions, values and/or personality differ from yours?
This question would probably differ depending on who you ask. If you ask me, I am extremely tolerant and accepting of everyone and their differing opinions, values and personalities. For the most part, that is a true statement. However, should you ask someone like my husband, I’m sure he would beg to differ on my level of tolerance towards differences in opinions and values. Him and I always have differences of opinions and I have no problem letting him know that his opinions are usually wrong. 🙂
I am not usually one to rock the boat. In a social setting or a work environment, I very rarely (if ever) voice my differences of opinion or express a conflict of values during random conversation or situations. I guess I just don’t feel that there is anything I find important enough to need to be vocal about. I am not big into confrontation, so even with those that may be speaking about something that I truly disagree with, I tend to just let it go. Issues like politics and religion are two that top my list of having a high tolerance for. I let others speak their mind and for the most part, others opinions rarely effect me enough to feel the need to defend my own opinion. I just smile and let others continue talking.
The one area where my tolerance level is probably low would be when there is clear differences in work values. I have a very hard time watching others who do not hold themselves at the same to the same work values as I have. I have an expectation that others will be as reliable, ethical and sensible as I am when it comes to work. When they are not, my tolerances level falls. With that being said, even when my tolerance drops, I still usually do not confront or say anything. I am one that just holds everything inside until that one day when it all explodes and comes oozing out. Not the best way to handle things, but I clearly don’t know any better because I do not make an effort to change.
Now, when it comes to my husband, all of the above goes out the window. I have little tolerance and make sure he is fully aware of this whenever needed. It could just be that I have a comfort level with him that I do not have with most, so I feel free to express to him when I do not agree. With others, I am never really sure how they will react, so I just don’t say anything. With him, I am comfortable enough to know his reaction that I feel free to express myself and any differences of opinions I may have. He does the same with me and I am glad. I don’t believe it would be a very healthy relationship if we didn’t express ourselves. As for tolerance, I think that is less simply because when you are with someone for such a high percentage of your time, you clearly are going to have less tolerance then you would with people you either don’t see often or don’t spend much time with.
So, my tolerance levels are hit-or-miss. It depends on who you are and how comfortable I am with you/ Those are the factors that will determine the full extent of how tolerant I will be with your opinions and values.