365 Day Blog Post Challenge 2019
275. I wish I were more…..
I wish I were more…… courageous. Maybe this is why I love watching the Wizard of Oz so much. The cowardly lion and I have a lot in common. I feel for that poor lion. I can relate to his pain.
If I would have had more courage over the course of my life, I am pretty confident things would be dramatically different for me today. If only I would have had more courage to assert myself and stand up for myself. More courage to go after the things I wanted, instead of walking away merely because it might be something difficult to obtain. When you lack courage, you tend to take the easy road instead of following the path that you know is best, merely because you don’t have the courage to fight for it. That has been the option I have taken my entire life.
It is a little scary to think of all of the opportunities that have passed me by, simply because I didn’t have the courage to speak up or do something outside of my comfort zone to obtain them. There are particular instances that come to mind immediately when I think of how having courage would have dramatically differed the direction of my life. For instance, there was a particular love in my life that was lost merely because NEITHER of us were courageous enough to fight for it. Even with all the different relationships I have experienced throughout my life, this was the only one that I have ever rerated not fighting for. I guess things have a way of turning out for the best, however, if I could go back in time, you can be assured that things would have had a different ending with Mr. X. I would have had more courage which would have helped me force him to have more courage too.
I have no doubt that my work experiences would have been drastically changed had I been one of those people that had the courage to put themselves out there. I am one of those people that will have ideas about things, but I am to afraid to speak up so I sit there quietly and say nothing. After many years in the workforce, I have learned it is those that speak up that end up getting the promotions and special opportunities. I proved this to myself one day when I was in a meeting and they were talking about doing a regional work exchange program. They were focusing on specific job positions that would be a good fit to have participate in this program. My position was not one of the ones they spoke about. So instantly after the meeting I sent an email to my boss explaining in detail why I thought I should be considered for this opportunity. And guess what? Within 2 months, I was called into my boss’ office and asked if I was interested in going to France for a month! Had I not had the courage to send that email (which is not something that would be considered normal for my personality), I would have never had that opportunity. That is just the ONE time I actually did have the courage to speak up. Imagine all of those other times I hadn’t had the courage. Who knows how much farther along in my career I could be had I taken more opportunities to be courageous.
The definition of courage is “the ability to do something that frightens one”. Courage is when we choice to confront uncertainty instead of running from it. Taking the easy road may make things simpler at that moment, but can actually make things harder down the road. If something seems like it is worth being courageous for, then it probably is. Don’t let the fear keep you from being brave. Now… I just need to learn to start taking my own advise. 🙂