365 Day Blog Post Challenge 2019
104. What have you accomplished in the last five years?
I am pleased to say that the past five years have been chalk full of accomplishments. As a matter of fact, I would have to say that in the past five years, I’ve accomplished more then I have for the majority of my adult life. My top accomplishments in the past five years? Marriage, college graduate, and my first trip to Europe.
It’s been about a year and a half now since the much anticipated wedding day. I think our friends and family just assumed we would never get married. We were together 14 years before we finally took the plunge into marriage. I guess we just really wanted to make sure it was going to stick this time since we both made prior marriage mistakes. Seriously though, to be perfectly honest, it never really seemed all that important to us and we rarely ever even spoke about marriage. We were basically married already in all senses except for the piece of paper that said so. However, one day we had a situation were he had some health issues and I ended up having to call an ambulance. When the paramedics kept asking me if I was his wife and I had to say no (meaning I had no legal grounds to make any decisions for him), I think it was a trigger for both of us that just maybe it was time we made things legal. I thought after 14 years together that being marriage would not really change anything… and it really didn’t change anything in our day-to-day life. There was something special about being about to call him my husband verse boyfriend (it was always very awkward for me being in your 40’s and having to say “this is my boyfriend”).
It’s been about 3 years now, but my other major accomplishment during the last five years was graduating college. I think that is the accomplishment I am most proud of, mainly because I know all the hard work that it took to get to that piece of paper that is now hanging on my wall in the bedroom. There were so many times I wanted to quiet. I thank my husband all the time for his support because without it, I would have given up. I was working full time and taking classes in the evening and doing homework all weekend. To say it was challenging would be an understatement. There were times when I would just be sitting there starting at the same page of a text book for half an hour because I just did not have the clarity and mental capacity to retain any information I was reading. It was at these times I would end up breaking down into tears. Which is where the support of my husband was priceless. He would calm me down, make me laugh and also make me step back for a minute and take a break to regain my composure so that I could jump back in and get things done. It was some of the toughest times of my life and yet some of the most rewarding at the same time.
Last year I was able to take my first international trip. My work sent me to France for a month to work in Paris office. I am one of just a select few that have been offered this opportunity, so that in itself was a great accomplishment. I know people travel to Europe all the time and probably don’t consider it an “accomplishment”. Part of what makes this an accomplishment for me is that I have a HUGE fear of flying. The longest I had ever flown up until that point was the 5 1/2 hours to Florida and Hawaii. The thought of being on a plane for 11 hours was almost a deal breaker. Especially since I would be making the trip alone. Anytime I am able to overcome a fear is always something I consider to be an accomplishment. Being an introvert also posed some challenges to this trip. Not being an extremely social person made this trip more of a challenge then someone who does not have social anxiety. I don’t usually venture out and do things that are unknown to me when I’m in my own country… so you can imagine the fear of having to do that in a foreign country… all alone, without speaking the language. That was a huge personal growth and accomplishment for me.
Sometimes I worry that on a day to day basis, I am not accomplishing enough. I get overwhelmed and often feel defeated by life. This was a good topic because it forced me to step back and realize that I have accomplished a lot more then I often give myself credit for. I think it’s important for us all to do that every once in a while.