My Story: 365 day blog challenge Day 6

365 Day Blog Post Challenge 2019
Day 6
341.  What are all the important days in your life?

Without giving away my age, I will say that I am old enough to have had experienced numerous “important days” in my life.  To many to write about in just one blog.  So, for the sake of keeping up my blog post challenge within a semi-readable length, I have narrowed it down to 65of the most important days in my life.

1.) Don
Starting my relationship with Don 15 years ago tops the list of the most important
days of my life.  My life has had so many drastic and subtle changes since he entered
my life.  To be honest, after two failed marriages and other relationships that did not
end well, I was not really sure I was capable of being in a relationship and staying in
love.  Clearly I just had not yet meet that one right person yet.

2.) Graduating College
I just got my college degree a few years ago. I was not fortunate enough to be able to
go to college right out of high school.  About 2 weeks after high school graduation, I
started my first fulltime job.  I’ve being working fulltime ever since.  I tried several
times in my 20’s to go to school in the evenings, but it would only last a semester or
two.  The majority of the time when I was in my 20’s and 30’s I was working more
then one job.  At one point, I was working my fulltime day job, another part-time job
in the evenings and a second part time job on the weekends.  I was always in debt
and always needing money, so working overshadowed any ideas of getting an
education.  My current place of employment is really big into degrees.  Although not
impossible to advance without one, it sure makes it difficult.  I found out that they
offer a 75% reimbursement program for continuing education so I jumped on that
opportunity.  It took six years of going to school in the evenings.  I did 3 years of
general education at the local community college.  I then transferred to an online
program and after 3 years of intense work on the evenings and weekends, I
graduated with my degree in Business Management with concentration on Project
Management.  This was an important day in my life for several reasons.  One is that
I finally had the degree that I needed to apply for jobs to advance in my career.  The
second is that this was probably the first thing I was every committed to that I actually
followed through with to the end.  This was a big deal for me.


3.) Being present for the birth of Hailey, Theo, Graysen and Cashius
I am very grateful that I was allowed to be a part of the births of four wonderful
humans.  The importance of these days are extremely significant as I was never able
to have children of my own.  I was diagnosed infertile in my early 30’s.  I had always
imagined at one time or another I would be become a mother.  It never even occurred
to me that this would never happen.  The truth is that even at my age now, sometimes
it does not seem real.  Being able to be apart of four different births means so much to
me.  Although I will never experience this for myself, I was able to experience it
through others and I will be more grateful to these individuals then they will ever
now.  The last birth I was a part of was my little Cashius (now 6).  I even got to cut the
cord after his delivery!  Amazing experiences that I will hold with me forever.
**I will write more about my infertility struggles in coming blogs, as I think it is an important topic to discuss
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4.) All the days I realize I’m stronger then I think I am
I am not one that has a huge amount of confidence in myself.  Maybe it’s the shyness
and being so introverted.  Maybe I just don’t give myself enough credit.  Who really
knows.  What I do know is that I do have days were I feel empowered and strong.  I
have small bursts of braveness and these days rank as some of the most important
days of my life.  One example was when I was 21, I really wanted to go on a
vacation.  None of my friends at the time had any money (not that I did either, but
I had credit cards, which to me was just as good as cash), so I made the decision to
go on a cruise by myself.  Now, maybe this may not sound like a big deal to some
people, but keeping in mind that I was terrified of speaking to strangers and had
actually only traveled on an airplane for the first time just a few years prior to this,
this was a HUGE deal for me.  I flew to Florida by myself, stayed in a hotel alone for
the first time by myself and boarded a cruise ship for a 7 night cruise to the
Caribbean by myself.   Each time I am able to have these experiences of strength and
braveness, it helps me grow as a more confident individual.  So all of these days are
some of the most important days of my life.

white cruise ship
Photo by Matthew Barra on

5.) Changing careers
I am the type of person that is not good with change. I usually will stick with
something, even if I am not happy or it does not feel right, merely because I don’t
want to deal with having to do something new.  Back when I was 19, I was fortunate
to find a job in the industrial lighting industry.  I worked for a lighting manufacture
doing entry level data entry.  The company was great and I was able to work my way
up to several different positions within the company.  Master scheduler, assistant
buyer and eventual project manager.  With this experience I was able to get a job
at a lighting representative working as a project manager.  After MANY years in
this industry, I was burned out and very unhappy.  However, I stayed because that’s
just what one does when they are reluctant to change.  At one point, I was just so
unhappy that I was coming home from work each day in tears.  With the support of
Don, he convinced me to breakout of the lighting industry to a whole new field.
I did not believe I was good enough to do anything different then I was doing, but
after much convincing I gave it a chance.  Now, 13 years later, I work in the
automotive engine oil field and am thriving and happy.  If it was not for this change
of career paths, I never would have worked for a company that paid for 75% of
my schooling, so I never would have received my college degree.  I guess maybe
change isn’t to terrible after all….. maybe.  🙂

I feel like any day, event or circumstance that has stayed in my memory warrants it to be considered an “important day of my life”.  This is why it was a challenge to narrow it down to just 5.  As I get older, the “important days” seem to grow in number, as I am learning to appreciate more of what life is providing me. I am finding that the things I consider “important” are ever evolving, which I believe is an important part of growing as a human being.

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